Why Taking Care Of Mommy Is So
By Sarah Veda
Itís a novel concept, isnít it; somebody taking care of you?
Well, that somebody ultimately has to be you, and I know how it is, youíre way
too busy taking care of everybody else to give yourself any time. But, let me
tell you why you have to take care of yourself, and give you some ideas as to
how to do accomplish this monumental feat.
Youíre the Mom Ė and if youíre out of commission, everybody suffers
If you canít manage to take care of yourself, for yourself, then take care
of yourself for everybody else! A well-rested, happy Mom is much more likely to
have happy, thriving children. If youíre tired, or you havenít had an adult
conversation in weeks, it will start to show. Youíll be grumpy to say the least;
at worst you could be downright dangerous when doing something like driving a
car. A frazzled Mom is no good to anyone.
How you treat yourself is how youíre teaching your children to treat you
If you never let your children see that you have needs, or that you take the
time to meet those needs, youíre teaching them that you are, indeed, a doormat,
and should be treated as such.
Ok, so now you know you need to take care of yourself, physically and
emotionally, but how do you make it happen?
Start with your calendar
Put some appointments in it that will let you have some time to yourself.
You choose the activities that will soothe your soul, but whatever they are,
make time for them. A few hours a week devoted to something you love other than
your family, will help keep you refreshed and feeling like your old self.
Ask for help
You know by now that men are different, right? Well, one of the ways they
are different is that they donít mind telling their partner what they need. And
they expect the same from us. If you need your husband to plan to watch the baby
for three hours every Saturday so that you can have some time to meditate,
vegetate, shop, whatever, you need to tell him. Heís not going to come up with
that idea on his own, but if you tell him what you need, heís likely to oblige.
Make friends with other women in the same boat
There is no substitute for a girlfriend who understands. If youíre a stay at
home mom, find some others to hang out with. It may mean some company for you
and a play date for your child at the same time. If youíre a working Mom trying
to juggle everything, hook up with some other working Mothers to talk things
through. It works wonders to know youíre not alone. Plus, you might get some
valuable ideas for handling some of the issues you face.
As the Mom, youíre really the heart of your family. Your well being
translates into everyoneís well being. Take the time to enjoy the whole person
that you are, not just the Mom.