When You Can't Have What You Want
By Steve Goodier
We can't always have everything we want! One woman laments that she
wants to be a bear. Actually, what she says is this:
"If you're a bear, you get to hibernate. You do nothing but sleep for
six months. I could deal with that.
Before you hibernate, you're supposed to eat yourself stupid. I could
deal with that, too.
If you're a bear, you birth your children (who are the size of
walnuts) while you're sleeping and wake to partially grown, cute,
cuddly cubs. I could definitely deal with that.
If you're a mama bear, everyone knows you mean business. You swat
anyone who bothers your cubs. I could deal with that, too.
If you're a bear, your mate EXPECTS you to wake up growling. He
EXPECTS that you will have hairy legs and excess body fat.
Yup. I wanna be a bear."
We can't always have everything we want! One person said this:
Our age is characterized by the ability to get what we want, and the
inability to want what we've got. It is characterized by
In 1988, one woman won twenty-two million dollars in her state
lottery. Her family and friends are gathered around her. The
television lights are blazing. Even the network news is there. She
was ecstatic. "This," the woman proclaimed, "is the happiest day of
But a mere five years later found her looking sullen. She was shown
again on television shaking her head in disbelief. In a matter of a
few short years, she went through a divorce, the alienation of her
children, and an investment that turned sour. A judge had now
garnished her lottery winnings for life. The closing scene showed the
woman sitting on the steps of an apartment building in utter despair.
She had won $22 million, but it was not enough to save her from
You have the ability to get what you want. You probably have
everything you need to be completely satisfied. Do you also have the
ability to want what you've got? Do you have peace of mind?
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