How to Stay in Love
by Steve Goodier
After careful consideration and endless debate The Perfect Man
has finally been named: "Mr. Potato Head." He's tan. He's cute.
He knows the importance of accessorizing. And if he looks at
another girl, you can rearrange his face.
Jean Kerr quipped, "Personally, I think if a woman hasn't met the
right man by the time she's 24, she may be lucky." We become
cynical about love, don't we? We're tempted to believe that real
love is a myth, a long-term relationship is a marathon and
romance is for kids.
One person said, "Marriage changes passion...suddenly you're in
bed with a relative." But does marriage have to kill romance? Is
marriage really nothing but a long banquet at which the dessert
is served first?
I believe in love and romance. I believe it is something that can
last forever, if it is carefully cultivated. Here are some tips
for keeping romance alive and for staying in love:
FIND time to date. Time to be alone and tell each other of your
love. You spent time alone at first...why did you quit? My wife
and I get away alone every week. Just to refocus on each other.
And to fall in love again.
UNDERSTAND what delights the other and make it happen. "The
romance is over," says Marlys Huffman, "when you see a rosebush
and start looking for aphids instead of picking a bouquet." Does
she like to be surprised by flowers? Does he have a favorite dish
or activity? Does she enjoy spontaneous affection? Know what
brings pleasure to your partner -- and delight him/her!
NEVER forget why you got together in the first place. When you
focus first on his faults you're not thinking about his
strengths. When you're busy pointing out her imperfections,
you're not enjoying those qualities that attracted you to her
initially. Choose to appreciate that which first drew you
together and your romance will grow.
The first letter of these three tips spells the word FUN. Have
fun together. Laugh. Go on outings. Plan time to enjoy one
another. Remember, "the family the PLAYS together also STAYS
together"!
A woman from Charleston, South Carolina was overheard to remark
that it was her 53rd wedding anniversary. When asked if she
planned a special celebration, she smiled and said softly, "When
you have a nice man, it really doesn't matter." I suspect they
learned the secrets of staying in love.
Just in case you're not presently with Mr. or Miss Exactly Right,
there ARE some things you can do to bring romance back into your
life. And though your relationship may never be perfect, it CAN
be perfectly wonderful.
Steve Goodier
Publisher@LifeSupportSystem.com is a professional
speaker, consultant and author of numerous books. Visit his site for
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