7 Secrets To A Happy Marriage
By Leslie Gerard
A marriage is a formal union that combines two lives as one, but it takes a certain amount of work to make any union last forever. This article is designed to reveal seven secrets that every couple should know.
Communicate. When you stop communicating with your spouse, you're in trouble. It's important to be able to talk to one another about anything, including the good and bad points of a day. A successful marriage is one where happiness is celebrated and sadness is shared.
Make a date. Many couples find it difficult to spend quality time with one another on a regular basis. Whether it's work commitments or just a hectic day, it often seems as though scheduling time together is the only way to make it happen. So, rather than checking your appointment calendar, simply set aside one day a week for a ‘date night.' Both you and your spouse will ideally not schedule anything else during this time and will just make it a special evening for the two of you. Whether it's a trip to the movie theater, dining at a fine restaurant or just curling up on the sofa, making a date with your spouse is always fun.
Be honest. In any relationship, especially a marriage, honesty is important. One deceit, regardless of how small, can quickly turn into another and the endless cycle begins. The best way to handle any situation is to be honest with your mate. If in doubt, ask yourself how you would want to be treated if the situation was reversed. If you prefer honesty yourself, show the same courtesy to your spouse.
Discuss financial issues. Money is one of the leading reasons why most couples argue. Not only that, it's also a leading cause for divorce. Whether you have it or you don't, money can be a touchy subject. The best way to handle financial issues is to discuss them openly.
Express your anger immediately. Otherwise, it may build and gradually become worse over time. Whether you need to shout or cry, it's important that your spouse knows what's on your mind. Your mate cannot possibly rectify the situation if he/she is not even aware that one exists.
Laugh. Every successful relationship has laughter. If you've ever heard the old saying that "laughter is the best medicine," it's true. There's no better way to treat your relationship than with a few chuckles now and then.
Remember why you love your spouse. Even when things are rough, remember all of the reasons that you fell in love with your mate. Was it a smile, their loving heart, sensitivity, eyes or just an unexplainable feeling when he/she is near? Whatever it was, remember it always. Even when you do not like your spouse, keep in mind that you do love them.
The information contained in this article is designed to be used for reference purposes only. It should not be used as, in place of or in conjunction with professional relationship and/or marital advice. For additional information or to address specific relationship issues, consult a marriage counselor.
About the Author: Recently married and working in the wedding favors industry for the past several years, Leslie is moving into kids furniture and hopes to be a proud parent soon!