Road Map of Life
by Kathy Gates
Letís say for example that you were headed to a friendís house for a party, and
along the way you might notice a restaurant, or a beautiful piece of scenery, or
a movie that you wanted to see.
Would you stop and go to the restaurant or the movie? Would you put your
ultimate objective on hold because something else got your attention for the
Of course not!
But thatís exactly what happens when you let distractions - albeit it attractive
distractions - move you off your Life Map. You "end up" somewhere instead of
where you really want to be.
If you were going to drive to somewhere unfamiliar - whether cross country or
just across the city - what would be the first thing you would do? Map it out?
And then after you mapped it out, would you never look at the map again? Not
More likely, you would refer to the map or directions often, to make sure that
you were on the right track. You would be able to tell quickly if you needed to
make adjustments, correct a mistake, or consider a change of plans.
Posting your goals, standards, boundaries, mission statement, etc. is very much
like having a map to refer to - "A Life Map".
In todayís busy world, itís easy to get off course. Having a Life Map to refer
to helps you keep moving quickly and efficiently towards your goals. It helps
you to filter out things that donít belong, helps you quickly correct things
when you mess up, helps you navigate unexpected problems.
But if you donít have the map where you can see it and refer to it often, all
the planning in the world wonít matter. Youíll end up driving aimlessly around
unfamiliar territory, being distracted by many different paths -- knowing where
you want to go, but having no tried and true method of getting there.
Donít let your temporary, current desires take precedence over what you REALLY
Because, you see, an important part of succeeding is deciding what is and what
isnít a distraction.
For example, as you were headed to your party, you saw a vendor with some fresh
flowers and you decide to stop and pick up some for your friend. In that case, a
stop along the way ADDS to your goal. However, if instead you decide to stop and
see a movie and arrive quite late at the party, then you have detracted from
The Life Map functions the same way. Each "opportunity" must be evaluated in
light of how it will affect your ultimate goal -- will it contribute to it, or
will it detract from it?
Therefore, both the driving map and the Life Map serve the same high purpose: To
Keep You On Track.
POST your Life Goals so that you can see them every day. Decide that you will
put as much thought into your Life Map as you do into planning your Vacation.
Grab on to the steering wheel of your life. Check your map often, determine your
current location, and move confidently toward where you want to go.
Need a Life Map? I can help! Professional Life Coach Kathy Gates specializes in
helping people who are ready to set goals to create a less stressful, more
joyful and meaningful lifestyle. Visit
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