What Not To Do
by Kathy Gates
With time flying by faster and faster every year, you already know it's
important to make resolutions - or set goals - to move you in the direction you
want to go in. However, it's equally important to know what not to do.
Try these Anti-Resolutions to add some Don'ts to your day, and see how it helps
with all those Do's.
"I will not over-schedule my day." It seems like scheduling every minute would
be the logical way to get everything done, but it actually tends to work against
you. Some things will take longer than you expected, some things will interfere
that you can't predict. If you're scheduled to the max, you'll have no room to
absorb them, things will overrun, and frustration will set in. Instead, plan in
the free time. Aim for about 75% scheduled, 25% free.
"I will not say Yes to everything." Saying Yes to everything is like cholesterol
- it clogs your day with stuff you don't want there. Doing other people's work,
answering annoying phone calls, deleting junk emails. If you want to read a
book, say No to TV and the internet. If you want to start a home business, say
No to things that waste your time. If you want to lose weight say No to
Frito-Lay and Sara Lee. Simple as that (I didn't say easy, I said simple.)
"I will no longer put what I want at the moment over what I want in the long
run." That extra 20 minutes of sleep in the morning might seem like the best
thing since sliced peanut butter, but you know it will only make you late, and
then playing catch up the rest of the day. That new pair of shoes may seem like
the last pair you'll ever need, but if it makes the rent money tight, it's not
worth it. Think about the long term effects of your actions today.
"I will no longer get duped into the "I can have it all" idea." Having it all is
certainly possible, either by having it at different times in your life, or by
having a whole lot of help (think Kelly Ripa or Katie Couric). Their few spare
minutes are certainly not spent grocery shopping or cleaning toilets. So please,
lose the Super-Woman idea attached to it.
"I will no longer get trapped in media microwave mentality." Things take time.
Life is not a sit-com, and few things are resolved in 30 minutes or less.
Appreciate the various stages of projects and goals as well as the outcome. Ever
notice a rose in bud form? It's beauty is special - no need to wait until the
rose is opened to enjoy it. Neither are your goals of home projects, or getting
a degree, or even getting your schedule organized. Learn from the mistakes,
learn to enjoy the lessons, and make each day as special as the end result.
"I won't give up." Never give up. When you mess up, or when the wind of life
comes barreling in unannounced - and it will - being prepared as best you can
will give you the strength to be able to move on. If you lose your job suddenly,
having a reserve of money will ease the transition into a new job and give you
the power to wait to find the right one. When it seems like there's no answer,
push on. The answer may be just around the next corner. Don't let fear, or
anger, or frustration, or your money, or your in-laws, stop you from living your
life. Keep going. It's your turn next.
Professional Life Coach Kathy Gates helps people who are burned out, stressed
out, and fed up to get back in touch with the foundations of their life. Sign up
for newsletter and How-To Clinics at
www.reallifecoach.com, or call 480.998.5843