Choose A Happier Life
By Kathy Gates
Choosing things comes pretty naturally to us humans. I can
choose chocolate ice cream over strawberry any day, and choose blues over browns
But can we really just simply choose a happier life? If you mean
a life thatís simpler, less stressful, and more meaningful, then yes, I believe
that we can make those choices.
Life is usually what we make it. And while there are things that
none of us can control -- rainy weather, sky high gas prices, cranky bosses,
nosy mother-in-laws -- there are many things that you are in charge of. These
are the things that help you lead a happier life.
Choose Consciously Make an effort to decide that YOU choose how
to spend your time, money, energy, and spirit. As long as you accept the
consequences, and make the choice with your eyes open, youíll feel more in
control. Consciously choosing your TV time, or surfing time, is a lot different
than just realizing you spent 4 hours clicking channels.
Set Priorities If the annoyances of life are living your life
for you, youíre never going to win the foot-race of life. Youíll simply run out
of time, devoting it to things that you chose in the moment, instead of what you
really wanted the most. Donít put what you want right now above what you really
want in the long run.
Nurture It: Protect It What you focus on in your life will
flourish. If you focus on problems, lack, hatred, guilt, and self doubt, thatís
what youíll find growing in your garden of life. Instead plant seeds of change,
conviction, courage, and choice. No, itís not just about thinking positive
thoughts -- but itís a heck of a good place to start!
Be Consistent Anything that you do consistently, day after day,
week after week, adds up. Good results or bad results are the product of
repeating the same behavior over and over. If you consistently save, youíll have
money in the bank; if you consistently over-spend, youíll be in debt. Choose
what you want, and take one small step, consistently day after day, and see what
Stop Reading, Start Doing We live in an amazing world of
information. Most people have access to more choices and information than
theyíve ever had. Even our children are faced with decisions based on their
broader ability to receive information. But. information without action is
useless. Put the information you already have to work in your life.
Stop Analyzing, Start Living A lot of psycho-babble teaches us
that we need to know the ďwhyĒ about our behavior before we can address it. And
the ďwhyĒ can sometimes help correct a problem, or give you motivation for
action. But most of what we all do on a daily basis is not the product of some
deep dark psychological reason. Itís habit. Change your habits, and youíll
change your life. Change your attitude and youíll change your life. Change your
environment and youíll change your life.
Ask For What You Want Itís time to stop expecting other people
to read your mind. Think about how frustrating it is for you when someone
expects you to know what they are thinking. Itís just a set up for failure. Be
willing to ask concisely, pleasantly, and honestly for what you want and need in
Gates is a Professional Life Coach in Scottsdale Arizona. What is Life
Coaching? Your life -- only easier, happier, more joyful! Learn more
about how to create a simpler, less stressful, more meaningful
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