The Way Families Win
By Steve Goodier
Winston Churchill said, "We shall fight on the beaches, we shall
fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets,
we shall fight in the hills." Like humorist Bob Orben added, "That sounds a lot
like our family vacations." And for some people it sounds like everyday life.
The problem is not whether families should have conflict - of
course they will! The problem is rather whether or not those conflicts will end.
For some people, living in families is like the Hundred Year War. Conflict that
has a good ending can bring people closer together, but fighting that goes on
and on will only tear families apart.
At one point during a game, the coach said to one of his young
players, "Do you understand what cooperation is? What a team is?" The little boy
"Do you understand that what matters is whether we win together
as a team?" The little boy nodded yes.
"So," the coach continued, "when a strike is called, or you are
out at first, you don't argue or curse or attack the umpire. Do you understand
all that?" Again, the boy nodded yes.
"Good," said the coach. "Now go over there and explain it to
Families are like baseball teams. The only way a family will win
is as a team. They win pulling together; they never win pushing against each
If your family has conflict - talk it out. Then when it's over,
let it really be over so you can pull together. That is the only way your family
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