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Easy Steps to Online Dating Success
by Claire Gaskin
-We all know that online dating will
help you to make new friends and meet your perfect partner. But, how do you get
the best out of a dating site? If you are thinking of signing up, or have
already joined a dating site without success, make sure you read these 3
important tips! -
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1. Personal Profile - Getting it Right-
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All dating sites ask you to complete a personal profile. But what will make YOUR
profile stand out amongst the crowd? -
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Although the length and depth of profiles differ from one dating site to
another, they all ask you to describe your physical appearance, such as height
and hair color. Of course, this is important: we are initially attracted to
someone by how they look and online dating isn't very different. Where dating on
the internet comes into its own, however, is the opportunity to find out more
about a person before taking that next step. This unique aspect can be very
powerful in deciding whether you will actually go ahead and make contact because
you like the sound as well as the look of someone. -
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And there's the rub: Don't sell yourself short when it comes to saying more
about you. Brief phrases like: 'Single 30 year old woman would like to make new
friends' or 'I'm not sure what to write but please get in touch' will not make
you stand out. Tell people about the things you like to do, any hobbies you are
interested in, the music you love, your dreams for the future. If you're still
unsure, find a well-written profile that interests you and follow their lead! -
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2. Photographs - Don't be shy!-
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Profiles without photographs rarely stand out. You are much more likely to get
responses if you attach a picture. -
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Some people are shy about doing this. But hey - I'm sure you don't go out with a
paper bag over your head so don't hide yourself now! Let's be honest, who would
you rather contact, someone without a photograph or that person smiling back at
you from the screen? -
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Online dating is an acceptable and successful medium in which to meet new
people. All research proves that profiles with a photograph attached
consistently do better than those without. So, get your camera out and say
cheese! -
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3. Making the First Move - Don't Sit Back-
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You would be surprised how many people go to the trouble of completing their
personal profiles, attach a nice picture and then sit back and wait for a flood
of emails. No surprise that they are disappointed! Let's face it, if you go to a
party and sit in the corner all night you're not going to get everyone queuing
up to meet you. You may even go completely unnoticed. -
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Even with a great profile, making the first move to say 'hi' is essential in the
art of online dating. People love receiving new emails and will nearly always
write back. Just think, if everyone sat back and waited for others to get in
touch then the dating game would be over before it started. If you want to fill
up your inbox then start emailing people straight away. -
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Bonus Tip: -
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If you're new to online dating and still building your confidence check to see
if there are other ways of contacting people instead of an email. Some sites
make it really easy to make the first move without having to say very much at
all - like virtual kisses - a great way to let someone know you're interested!
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So, what are you waiting for? If you are thinking of signing up to a dating
site, or have already joined one without much luck, just follow these 3 simple
steps and you'll be well on the way to online dating success. -
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Good luck!-
Claire Gaskin is a social researcher who previously worked for many years in the
counseling field. Claire now runs a successful online introductions site which
brings people who love music together:
www.music-mate.com