10 Things Between You and a Great Life
by Kathy Gates
1. Unfinished business: Free yourself from the past by identifying and
cleaning up your unfinished business. Call an end to whatever you started
- a project, a diet, a feud, a commitment - by dumping it, delegating it, or
2. Ignoring the Present: Today is a result of all the Today’s that came
before it. A well lived present will naturally produce
wonderful future. Save a dollar today, and you’ll have a dollar tomorrow.
Eat 500 calories less today, and you’ll lose weight tomorrow. Only what you do
TODAY can affect tomorrow.
3. No Priorities: Never trade what you want at the moment, for what you
want the most. If you just react to the next thing that gets your
attention, you’ll never have enough time for what is important. Don’t schedule
your time around your priorities…schedule your Priorities around your time.
4. Betraying yourself: Telling lies to yourself is the most hurtful form
of disrespect. Write out the ways in which you have been untruthful to
yourself, and how you can change that. “I will no longer pretend that what
I put into my mouth doesn’t matter.” “I will no longer pretend that
overspending my budget is ok.”
5. People Pleasing: If you always say yes even when you want to say no,
you will find yourself unhappily going through the motions of living, giving
control of your time, energy, and spirit to anyone who asks for it.
Free yourself by learning to quietly assert your boundaries.
6. Accepting Energy Drainers: Everyday crisis and problems ARE NOT “just
the way it is”. Choose to put life on your schedule. Make a conscious
choice to simplify your tasks, organize your environment, and set up your life
to support how you want to live.
7. Complaining Instead Of Asking: You will only get as much as you ask
for. Complaining is passive, not active. Choose to consciously educate people on
what you need by making a request instead of complaining.
8. Low Reserves: Without reserves to back you up, you will make decisions
based on your LACK –lack of money, lack of time, lack of energy. And that
will cause you to make mistakes, and miss opportunities. Systematically
eliminate things from your life until you have a built-in reserve of time and
money; then build from there.
9. Hiding your weakness: Let your weakness help you be more truthful.
Educate people. “I’m really impatient; please let me know if I skip over
something you don’t understand.” “I’m not good with secrets; please don’t
tell me anything that you don’t want me to repeat.”
10. Wishing Instead of Planning: START! Do something! If you just
sit around *wishing* that things would be better, it’s not likely that they ever
will be. As my mother used to say, “wish in one hand, pour peas in the other…see
which fills up faster.” Create a plan, and get into action.
Professional Life Coach Kathy Gates specializes in helping people who are ready
to create a simpler, less stressful, more joyful and meaningful lifestyle.
Get information on her programs and services at
www.reallifecoach.com or call 480.998.5843.