by: Alan Detwiler
Need an idea for what to do on a date? Here's how to go about
finding ideas for new and unusual dates that are enjoyable and memorable.
The three most usual choices for what to do on a date are
dinner, a movie, and a public event such as a sports game or concert. Those
activities often give the couple several hours of time to enjoy each other's
company. But relying on those same activities too often, leads to a loss of the
sense of drama and importance of the time spent together.
Human nature craves the out-of-the-ordinary. A new experience
raises awareness and often contributes greatly to our ability to enjoy
ourselves. If a couple continues to occasionally find new and unusual choices
for what to do, their time together will be more enjoyable.
Probably the best way to find new ideas for what to do for a
date is to make a point of being on the lookout for possibilities. You might see
something in the newspaper or in a magazine. Someone you know could share an
idea they have had. You never know when an idea will present itself.
You should also actively search for new and unusual things to
do. A great place to look for ideas is web sites about things you are interested
in. Use Google or your favorite search engine. Key in words or phrases that
describe the activities and events that you find interesting and enjoyable. Look
through the list of web sites found with the search. Look at the sites that seem
most promising. The local visitors' bureau is a possible source of ideas. They
will likely have many brochures about local attractions. Look in the community
events section of your newspaper. Look through the brochures at the Chamber of
Commerce. Look in the yellow pages under headings such as canoes, rafting,
hiking, and art museums. Check the bulletin board at the library. Use your
imagination to adapt what you see at those places to suit your own interests and
tastes.
Keep a list of possible activities. Have a place to keep
information such as brochures, maps, and visitors' guides. Set up folders in
your computer for storing information you have found online. Use Notepad to copy
and paste just what is of interest to you. The File menu of most web browsers
has a Save As command that can be used to save an entire web page.
Be open to any suggestions and preferences your partner has to
offer. Try to be sensitive to his/her tastes and interests. Give almost as much
importance to his/her enjoyment of the date as your own enjoyment. After all,
you probably won't enjoy the date if your partner doesn't.
Try to choose activities that give enough opportunities for
communication. Conversation and comments you and your date make to each other
are often the most important part of the date. Couples need to find out each
other's values and interests. Couples need reassurance and the stimulation of
each other's ideas.
Pursue your own interests. Being passionate about something
makes you more interesting. What you do and where you go on a date is not so
critical if the person you are spending time with is interesting and caring.
Finally, stay informed to stay interesting. Keep up with current events and
issues. Listen to the news and news commentary programs. One good source I like
is the web sites of National Public Radio.
Alan Detwiler is the author of the ebook "Date Ideas: Fun Things To Do For
Couples" available at
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B0002WYFFC. He has a web site with
a section about fun things to do for couples at http://www.leisureideas.com/date
ideas.htm