By Wendy Hearn
Christmas is a time when we want to experience love,
joy and peace, but for many people it's an extremely
difficult and stressful time. On the one hand, you
look forward to enjoying Christmas and on the other
hand, you dread what it's really going to be like.
However, Christmas can be enjoyable and these are my
top 5 tips to have the Christmas you want and be more
your unique self this year.
1. Define your ideal Christmas.
If you could have Christmas exactly the way you want
it, ideally what would that look like, be like and feel
like? Write this down and also write down what
Christmas is really about for you personally. What is
important to you at Christmas? Be specific and add
plenty of detail.
Then ask yourself, "What would it take for Christmas to
be like this for me?" You don't need to change
everything in one go; even little changes add up to
great things. Pick the changes you most want to make
this year and perhaps let the others go for future years.
Don't expect to have your ideal Christmas this year.
It's there to work towards. What would make Christmas
special for you? What's your intention this Christmas?
2. Make choices.
You do have choices, even though Christmas is often a
time when we forget this and end up going along with
what others want for whatever reason. If you don't
make choices, you're likely to be left feeling a
victim, and disappointed or stressed about Christmas.
As you look at your definition of your ideal Christmas
there will be some choices for you to make. I
encourage you to make some of these choices this year
and take the necessary actions to make them happen.
You can have it the way you want but you'll need to tap
into your personal power and make choices. You have
choices about everything, including:
3. Drop Perfectionism
Defining your ideal Christmas, and making choices and
taking actions in order to bring that into reality is
not about making everything perfect at Christmas. It's
about living your life the way you want. When you're
being true to yourself, you'll feel more peaceful,
contented and joyful.
Perfectionism seems to raise its head even more at
Christmas and adds so much pressure. You're a human
being and that means being human, not perfect. So what
if everything isn't perfect? The world won't end.
When you find yourself heading towards perfectionism,
ask yourself, "Is it really important in the big scheme
of things?" Live Christmas according to what's
important to you and give up your need for
4. Drop the 'shoulds'
Christmas is a time when 'shoulds' seem to show up even
more. 'Shoulds' are based on other people's
expectations of us and aren't usually what we choose to
do. You do have a choice. You don't have to go along
with what you think you 'should' do.
Notice the times when 'should' appears in what you're
saying or thinking, stop yourself and decide what
choice you yourself truly want to make.
Don't make Christmas any more complicated. It's easy
for Christmas to be a time with lots to do and lots to
buy. It can be an expensive time of year and you end
up too tired and stressed to enjoy any of it.
Simplify as much as you can from what you need to do,
such as cooking and socializing, to what you need to
buy, such as gifts, food and decorations. Before any
of these lists get too big, simplify them by stepping
back and deciding what Christmas means to you and how
you want to spend it. Define your ideal Christmas.
Keep things simple; after all it's usually the simple
things in life that bring the most joy. The tender
gaze of someone who loves you, children's hugs and
kisses, the gift given with much love and thought, or
time spent doing what makes your heart sing. What
brings you the most joy?
What I want for you is a Christmas full of what your
heart truly desires.
Copyright Wendy Hearn. Wendy works with business owners,
professionals and executives to
discover and unlock their own inspiration, to effortlessly take
the actions required to have the success they desire.
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